The word “no” holds a lot of power.
It’s like the second we hear it, we deflate.
Why is it that we put so much more weight into the word “no” than we do with “yes”?
“Yes validates what we are thinking and feeling and helps us to realize we should continue on our path. But the word no, that word stops us dead in our tracks. Sometimes makes us even retreat on our path because we feel that we must no longer know what we are doing based on the opinion of one person,” shared my friend Lindsay in her blog.
The reality is, no one doing work that is worth doing – work that will make a profound change in the world – was told yes at first.
How do I know this?
Because doing good work means changing the status quo, and that’s an uncomfortable thing for many.
“Maybe the no came from someone who was jealous that you are working towards something of importance and they don’t have the guts to do it themselves. Maybe the no came from someone who was in a bad mood that day. Maybe the no came from someone who always pessimistic,” shared Lindsay.
We do ourselves a disservice when we perceive the opinions or feedback from others as the absolute truth — especially when those others are negative — especially when those people aren’t your kind of people.
We do a lot better for ourselves, and for the world, when we surround ourselves with people who say yes – but not a blind yes to shut you up.
We do a lot better when we find people who encourage us to believe in our ability to accomplish whatever it is we’re dreaming of.
“The importance of living, is finding your niche, the place that you want to make a difference and finding the people to connect with that believe in making that difference as well,” Lindsay wrote.
I couldn’t agree more.
So, I’m forgetting (and no longer engaging with) the people who are telling me no or filling me with fear and instead, I’m finding (and making every effort to connect with) the people who want to cheer me on, inspire me to learn and support me as I take leaps.
…These are my kind of people.