Turning can’t into can

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I don’t like the word “can’t.”

It never leads to anything remarkable; it just feeds into insecurity.

When we tell ourselves that we can’t do something, we have already decided (before we’ve even tried) that we are unable.

People who do great work, people who change lives, don’t use the word “can’t”. 

People who do great work realize that telling themselves they can’t is the quickest way to crush and deflate their ideas and dreams.

No one who has ever created something innovative and life changing told themselves they couldn’t do it.

I recently listened to episode 68 of Jess Lively‘s podcast (quickly becoming one of my favorite podcasts) featuring Hal Elrod.

Elrod shared that one of the things that has enabled him to become such a successful speaker and coach is that he never doubted himself.

Elrod never looked at his role models and said “why can they do it and I can’t?”

Instead, Elrod “looked at others and thought to myself, if they can do it, so can I.”

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Successful people tell themselves they can.

“Anything someone else has accomplished is evidence of what is possible for us,” Elrod shared.

However, being successful requires determination, hustle and confidence.

In order to build the life you want to live, in order to become the person that you want to be, you have to tell yourself that you can.

“Every moment, every choice, we’re faced with the opportunity to either do the right thing, something that helps us become the person we want to be to create the life what we want, or do the easy thing,” Elrod said.

The next time that you find yourself looking at your role models and admiring the life they have built, don’t let yourself doubt your ability to create that same life for yourself.

“Can’t” is not the word that will ever lead to success, so let’s cut it from our vocabulary now.

People who say can’t will never become the change makers of the world.

So, if you are like me and want to make your mark on the world and live your “dream life,” you have to commit to be the best version of yourself every single day by telling yourself you can.

Each and every one of us has the ability to do whatever it is we aspire to, and the sooner we can feed ourselves that story [the story that says I can do this,] the closer we will be to living the life of our dreams.


  • Joel says:

    This blog post is so relevant and special for me and thank you for sharing. I am a victim of this type of behavior. I can’t be a morning person. I can’t write. Only recently have I started to change he way I think, speak and operate (with your help and guidance) and I have already seen the results and it’s incredible! I started to write my first blog post and it was so rewarding and exciting I ended up writing two and already have the idea for my third! The paper of positive thinking is incredible and only builds on itself with each success and I am forever grateful for you helping to change the way I think and speak as this is giving me the confidence qnd strength to grow into a better man.

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