A fellow Ruckusmaker wrote a blog post titled “The Totally Illogical Shame Cycle” that really resonated with me.
She discussed how humans are irrational; we are easily distracted and let our fear prevent us from pursuing our goals.
It’s easy to abandon goals and its large in part due to the ‘Totally Illogical Shame Cycle.’
“It goes like this:
- Seek empathy: Use your trustworthy friends as a sounding board. It’s comforting sharing your feelings and struggles with others because you usually find out that you’re not alone; that’s an incredible reminder to get when you’re feeling ashamed because it helps stop the pity party. Empathy helps you get back on your feet and that’s crucial because there’s no room for pity parties when you’re working towards greatness.
- Use visuals: I’ve always been a big fan of to-do lists because they help motivate me to accomplish my goals. I love crossing things off lists. “When you have reminders of where you’re headed and how much you’ve done so far, it somehow seems easier to just do one more step,” shares Tamara.
- Reflect: In order to move forward, you have to know where you’ve been. Reflecting on your past mistakes and successes helps give you confidence in taking steps towards your goal.
- Find your teachers: My personal favorite are Seth Godin, Arianna Huffington and Pema Chödron. Find people you admire who make you feel inspired, happy, thoughtful and brave.